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For the first time in his life, he found himself imagining a future together with someone. He was embarrassed to tell her this but he had never really been in love with the women he had dated. “Well who would play me in this rom-com of your life?” she teasingly inquired. “You have such beautiful olive skin,” he crooned, “so you can be a person of color or racially ambiguous in the book but definitely a white woman in the movie.”

Anonymous asked:

yeah that post just confirms you're more concerned about gender presentation than females looking for other female representation. thanks. like it's not hard to get that when a show/book/tv/movie is 18 white biological males that someone wants some with a vagina involved in it and it's not erasing gender non-conforming folks. it's what more than one sex represented. so yeah, thanks for playing into the whole shutting females up about talking about their bodies thing.

sex =/= gender, genitals =/= gender and the concept of genderbends is cissexist because it is implying that sex and gender are the same

like i said, and the post i reblogged said, nobody is stopping you from wanting to draw guy characters as women or have ‘everybody is a lady’ AUs but just dont call them genderbends or genderswaps?? just call them ‘everyone is a lady AU’ or ‘i drew girl!percy’ or ‘i drew captain america as a trans woman”


so the problem with GENDERBEND and GENDERSWAP



content warning: discussion of cissexism/cissexist slurs

SHORT ANSWER: they’re dehumanizing.


genderbender is a term that’s been around for quite a while, and it has a history of being used to fetishize trans* bodies. it assigns the idea of body parts = presentation = gender—i.e. your ‘parts’ and your ‘presentation’ and gender must all match up. which is. ridiculous. since gender and body parts and presentation can all be TOTALLY DIFFERENT. shit does not have to match up!

genderbender has been in use in popular culture! futurama! ranma 1/2 is friggin BUILT off this trope! it was the title of an x-files episode about an alien species that could ~change their body~ (their BODY, so it’s not about gender at all! remember, gender is a societal thing built on roles for men and women, it has fuck all to do with bodies). oh and then the titular alien murdered people. yep. that’s great. it’s not like there’s a history of transgender folk being framed as oversexed rapists/murderers. nope.

(silence of the lambs, for example, is one of the more famous out there, not even getting into all the “transploitation” porn/rape revenge shit out there)

and no, you are not meaning to reference a long history of trans* people being fetishized as she-males and trannies and benders—you just want to draw cute fanart of your fave dude as a lady or your fave lady as a dude! but uh, you are still totally doing that, regardless of intention.

because you are playing into the cissexist notion that body parts = gender = presentation. and that a dude being turned into a lady means he now had breasts and a vagina and wears a dress and goes by she. nvm that hey, he could totally become a she and still wear the exact same damn clothes and have a penis. REVOLUTIONARY. I KNOW.

is there anything wrong with wanting to make a character a different gender? nah, go hogwild! fanfiction and fanart is for exploring stuff, and hey, that includes gender + gender roles. but the problem IS in 99% of ~genderbending~ or ~genderswapping,~ gender, presentation, and body parts are ALWAYS ALWAYS in a set. ie

  • GIRLS: have vaginas, boobs, wear dresses, and id as female
  • BOYS: have penises, wear pants, and id as men

you will very very rarely find

  • GIRLS: have a penis AND a moustache, wear dresses, id as female.
  • GIRLS: have a penis, wear pants, and id as female
  • GIRLS: have a vagina, wear pants, id as female
  • BOYS: have a vagina, wear pants, id as men
  • BOYS: have a vagina, wear dresses, id as men
  • BOYS: have a penis, wear dresses, id as men
  • NONBINARY PEOPLE: ??????????????????? WHAT PEOPLE EXIST OUTSIDE MALE/FEMALE???????????????

genderbending/genderswapping contributes to even more erasure of trans* folk, nonbinary peeps, and also intersex bodies, not to mention! continued fetishization of gender/presentation/bodies that can ~change~ or do not fit in with ~norms~.

and no, rule 63 is not really a better term for this, since it means the exact same thing, but at least it doesn’t give me ragegasms when i see the word (unlike genderbender. yall, that is kinda a slur? let’s not).

so next time you are drawing/writing/exploring this, maybe. keep this in mind and switch it up a bit?

and STOP USING THESE WORDS, like god damn IF YOU WANT TO DRAW. IDK. mulder as a lady and scully as a dude, HOW ABOUT MAYBE JUST PRESENTING IT AS “mulder as a lady” or “scully as a dude” or “dude!scully” OR SOMETHING ELSE that is not inherently gross.




Anonymous asked:

dude that post about genderbends is so fucking sexist. sex flipping characters has historically been a way for biological females to look for representation in genres and fiction that is often painfully lacking. to tell girls that "hey, there may be no well-written characters like you, so don't try to change fiction so you can pretend there are" is so harmful to young females. this is why gender is so damn toxic on tumblr

this is a post explaining why genderbends/spectrumslide/rule 63 etc is harmful to trans people

like if you want to draw a male character as a girl just call it “girl!dean” or even better have trans headcanons eg draw trans woman steve, just don’t call it a genderbend 


If you really believe that representation doesn’t matter, then why the fuck are you threatened by it? If not seeing yourself depicted in stories has no negative psychological impact - if the breakdown of who we see on screen has no bearing on wider social issues - then what would it matter if nine stories out of ten were suddenly all about queer brown women? No big, right? It wouldn’t change anything important; just a few superficial details. Because YOU can identify with ANYONE.

So I guess the problem is that you just don’t want to. Because deep down, you think it’ll make stories worse. And why is that? Oh, yeah: because it means they wouldn’t all be about YOU.



I just really want more bisexual representation

I wish spn would stop queer baiting and just make dean canonically bisexual already

I wish oitnb would stop saying that piper was straight but now she’s gay and instead openly acknowledge the fact that she’s bisexual

I wish Steve Rogers would be written in the next movies as bisexual like the fandom has clearly adapted

I wish bisexuality could stop being erased

I want more representation