An important thing to consider when being a straight fan of/just talking about Nico di Angelo:
Gay pain is not here for your entertainment.
The difficulties that gay teenagers go through in coming to understand their own human experience and what that means for them are not there for you to coo over.
They don’t exist so you can start piling on the issues in order to give yourself more ‘feels’.
I’m tired of this ‘break the gay’ bullshit. I’m tired of the fact that popularity of gay characters goes hand in hand with how much crap they go through, as though their worth as a character is measured in pain instead of depth.
I’m tired of posts popping up on my dash with people crying about all the terrible things that could or should happen to Nico so that Jason or Percy or some other dude can come pick him up and people can get their rocks off to the hurt/comfort dynamic of a big strong man drying the baby gay’s tears.
I’m tired of Nico’s gayness being tied to this, or him needing to be ‘saved’ from his own internalised homophobia. Gay teens need support. A knight in shining armour flying in and saying it’s Okay to be Gay is not going to solve this issue. Nico is not suddenly going to love himself and his homosexuality because he got some gentle kisses and handholding from another dude. Yes, acceptance from the people around you is of paramount importance, but suddenly being thrown into a relationship never fixed anyone’s problems.
This is a complex issue. There is an established history of the only representation gay people get being in crazy, or dead, or broken characters. Quit trying to add Nico to their number, and quit making it about your feels.